Boy troubles...

[abigail <3]

I just got a new boyfriend and he told me that he really really really likes me and I really really really like him. But the problem is I'm always worried about something that might sound stupid. When I was going out with my now ex-boyfriend last year, I really liked him in the beginning and then suddenly five months later I no longer liked him.

Does anyone else get that? Because I'm hoping that I'm not the only one who this happens too.

So I'm worried now that after a couple months of dating my now boyfriend, I'll get tired of him and break up with him and I don't want that to happen. I never wanted it to happen with my now ex-boyfriend, but it just did and I didn't know how to stop it. So I really need some advice... Please?

Maybe it's because they're so different. My now boyfriend is so much nicer and cares about me and talks to me for hours. My now ex-boyfriend wasn't a jerk to me in the beginning but now is. He's always calling my friends b****** (even when I was going out with him) and he never cared about me... We always talked about nothing special and he always made it about himself. We were always fighting and the feeling that I had for him four-five months ago, was gone. So I don't know if this is going to happen again.

Please guys, I really need help. I don't want this happening again.

-- abbie<3

[imaginaryworld]

Well, did you feel like this about your ex-boyfriend at first? The EXACT same way?

[Blue Lantern]

We may drop a stone countless times and what will it do? Fall to the ground? What is to say it will not float up into the sky?

Base your decisions on the here and now, not assumptions of the past. Past results do not garauntee future outcomes.

And don't worry about things sounding stupid. Say what you mean, and mean what you say.

[abigail <3]

yeah true... but still i can't help but wonder what's going to happen because it's already looking like it's going the same way my last relationship did.

imaginaryworld said:

Well, did you feel like this about your ex-boyfriend at first? The EXACT same way?

and no, i didn't feel the same way about my ex-boyfriend... i might of felt that way at the beginning but i can't really remember.

[Blue Lantern]

Bah, don't let worry cloud what should be a happy time! Whether it works or not, it's an experience, the essence of life itself.

=)

[Moonchild10]

When we're teenagers, I guess it's natural for our feelings about people to change quickly. The same thing happened to me with my friend who I almost dated.
I don't think there's really a way to keep your feelings from changing, but they might not this time. Maybe they changed last time because your ex wasn't right for you.

Just try to enjoy your relationship and like BL said, don't think about the past. <3 Every relationship is a growing experience, and helps you figure out what you want in the person you'll end up with for good (if you ever choose to get married). In the meantime, have fun and try not to worry.

[coolcatjas]

yeah what moonchild10 said ----^

we as teens will develop many crushes and will fall in and out of love, but that doesn't mean that we won't find someone wonderful in the future. no two boys are the same.

if your boyfriend respects you and you know him well, your relationship will last a while. if it doesn't though, and you fall face first to the ground, don't stay on the ground. get up and walk again.

"it's better to have loved and lost than not to have loved at all" i love that saying.

if you are happy, then i am happy for you. Don't worry about the future, don't worry about the past. Enjoy what you have now, and you'll be happy. I hope you and your boyfriend have a happy ending! =^.^=

[abigail <3]

yeah you guys are so right!

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but now we're constantly fighting and i don't know what to do. i really like him, but i feel that it's just too much for me.

advice please?