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Jun 5, 2007 19:16:17 GMT -5
Post by some1 on Jun 5, 2007 19:16:17 GMT -5
a guy wanted to go with him to the dance with him (I thought as friends). I said no because i had church that day. He said it was fine and wanted my phone #. I was like o..k but gave it to him anyway.
When i did, he said that maybe we could go somewhere sometime and that he'll like to get to know me more. Right there i was like 'Oh Crap he meant more than friends'
I like him but not like that. Heck, i don't even like guys yet. So this made me dumbfounded and shocked.
And here's the stupid thing. without thinking i said 'maybe.' Why? well.... 1) because i was totally shocked that someone liked me it couldn't think straight 2) because i am just too nice.
right after i said maybe i thought "Damn it! why did i say that!?" Now i think he's got the wrong idea...
i want to tell him i just want to be friends but i don't know how to say it. .. my head hurts..
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Jun 5, 2007 20:37:26 GMT -5
Post by strawberry9 on Jun 5, 2007 20:37:26 GMT -5
I would be 100% positive that his intentions were as you two being more than friends. I have had a few girls jump to the conclusion that I was interested in them as more than friend when I was not. I suggest getting to know him better as a friend first before deciding that you would like to be with him. I myself never considered "maybe" to be a valid answer, I alwyas took maybe as a no. You have to have confidence in yourself, that is key. If he fancies you then obviously he sees something in you that you don't see in yourself. Also, be direct, I'm the type of bloke who likes directness and all the blokes I know are a big fan of that as well. I know some of the most beautiful girls who believe they are not attractive because of low self esteem. As I had stated before be sure he wants to be more than friends before you tell him you just want to be friends. If you jump to the conclusion he wants to be more than that he may actually be offended. Some blokes can be offended if one assumes that they always want to be more than friends with a girl. I, myself am not too fond of the often overlooked stereotype. And as I said, be direct. If you mst tell him you wish to be just friends say it clearly and directly, make it simple and plain. Hope this helps. ^_^
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Jun 6, 2007 16:48:15 GMT -5
Post by Blue Lantern on Jun 6, 2007 16:48:15 GMT -5
I would agree wholeheartedly with Strawberry's response, except for a minor detail:
Maybe has for me, and typically should, mean just that. Hang out with him, stay just as friends if you want, but make sure to be honest with yourself and him, if you end up liking him, then do something about it.
I just don't want you to blindly miss an opportunity if it comes about.
Best of luck.
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Jun 6, 2007 16:54:42 GMT -5
Post by strawberry9 on Jun 6, 2007 16:54:42 GMT -5
Thank you Blue Lantern. ^_^
And yes, best of luck!
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Jun 7, 2007 17:59:20 GMT -5
Post by abigail <3 on Jun 7, 2007 17:59:20 GMT -5
Ooh, that has happened to me a lot of times before. Sometimes I'm the one who is thinking that they want something more then a friendship and other times it's them thinking that I want more then just a friendship. I agree with those two up there because they're right and I can't think of anything better to say then that. Actually for awhile I didn't have a lot of 'guy' friends, they all just wanted to go out with me. It's best to just talk to him for awhile and he probably didn't mean that he wanted to 'go out' in that kind of way. He was probably just meaning that he wants to get to know you. Don't really listen to me, I'm not that good at those problems. I hope this helped?
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Jun 7, 2007 20:57:28 GMT -5
Post by some1 on Jun 7, 2007 20:57:28 GMT -5
yes thanks maybe i am over examining things.. still i am hoping his intentions were just a friends and not more than that because i don't know almost nothing about him. I am also religious and he doesn't believe in God. -_-
then recently there is this diff guy staring at me and wen i say "what ?" he says "nothing" and quickly looks away. My friend thinks he likes me. But i don't think so.
sigh.. wat happened to the good-old-days when i was a loner and no one (especialy not guys) even noticed me? things were less complicated then... -_-
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Jun 11, 2007 18:44:44 GMT -5
Post by Blue Lantern on Jun 11, 2007 18:44:44 GMT -5
"Now don't say that Venzini..."
Fezzik put it very well. Don't say that, because as much as we would all like to say not being in contact with anyone is fine, as social creatures, we do enjoy it.
For all it's worth, I used to be the same way, with very little outside contact, and it sucked. Videogames and TV all the time, when videogames were boring or nothing was on TV, life sucked. Nowadays I can hardly get a free minute to myself to watch TV or play videogames and I would never go back, despite all the drama that comes with the social life.
Not to mention I have a wonderful girlfriend because of it, but that's just a side benefit of being social.
And for getting things back to relative simplicity, make all situations humorously awkward, it helps get things in the open in a manner that is enjoyable for all.
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